Autho wrote a profound book of meditations “More Language of Letting Go which offers bold perspective on taking responsibility for our lives. The passage for January 6th in particular speaks with a clearer perspective than anything else I have read on this topic.
This passage begins outlining the risks one would take when they go skydiving, bungee jumping, or a number of other sports, rides, etc. You are asked to sign a waiver acknowledging the danger in what you are about to do. “You sign the waiver to protect others from being liable in case of an accident”.
She suggests that we take this same viewpoint with all of the choices we make in our lives. “Ultimately no one is responsible for my life but me. There is no one to blame, no one to sue, no one to ask for a refund.”
To help the reader on this path, she created a waiver for the reader to sign. This waiver asks the reader to take responsibility for the decisions they make. Where and who they live with..how you spend money and time… “There are inherent dangers and risks in all decisions I make. Life and people have no obligation whatsoever to live up to my expectations…Life is a high risk sport and I may become injured along the way.
The passage concludes with “Although people may voluntarily nurture and love me. I and I alone am responsible for taking care of and loving myself.”
This is pure poetry about how to get the most out of life.
When someone is in a less than ideal situation in work or a relationship, it is easy to feel like a victim of a boss or circumstance. It is not uncommon to feel almost powerless in such a situation, as if we don’t have any choices, while we are actually giving up our freedom to choose. A few years back a coach of mine David Dowd shared with me the 5 Tenets of Freedom; They are about taking responsibility for our lives and our choices. Ask yourself how you are choosing to be in the situation you are in? Take your life back!
The Five Tenets of Freedom
1. Freedom is more important than anything else
2. Uncover where I am operating as a victim and transfor that to a choice.
3. Face everything and avoid nothing.
4. Don’t take life personally.
5. Freedom is directly correlated to my ability to see myself as part of a whole.
Business Week profiles pickle maker Rick Field, the founder Rick’s Picks. He describes what it takes to transform a hobby into a thriving business with national distribution.
“Background: In 2003, Field, a director and producer for veteran journalist Bill Moyers, left TV to turn his pickle-making hobby into a full-time business he named Rick’s Picks.” more
Are you rushing through life missing out on the real moments? How much time do you spend contemplating problems which never even happen? Most of us create an unnecessary amount of stress in our lives by spending more time rehashing the past or trying to control the future, then we do in the present moment.
In “Choosing Happiness” Alexandra Stoddard writes “The past is dead gone forever, only to be retrieved in memories, films, scrapbooks, and memorabilia. The past, whether good or bad, Is not where we should water our seeds of consciousness, because doing so drains our energy from what is alive to us and around us now. Dwelling on the past inhibits our ability to move forward and take action to inspire our well-being. However we perceive the past, whether in a positive or negative light, concentrating on it makes us unhappier in the present.” (more…)
In Work Like You’re Showing Off! Joe Calloway uses the surge in popularity of high-stakes poker as a metaphor for going all-in with our lives and careers, much like a poker player would. It is about bringing your best to every situation.
He recounts a sermon his pastor recently gave about “Going All In”. “In poker when you go all in, you are putting it all on the line, every last chip goes into the pot. It is the most intense and exciting time of the game.”<!–more–/>
The author asks whether he has gone all in with what he feels is important in his life. The topics he considers are the same that most of us would consider.
We can use the same metaphor and questions for our own lives. We can instantly get a clear picture our committment level in multiple areas of our life.
Try some of the questions he considers in the book.
Have I gone all in with my work? What I consider to be the most important parts of my work?
Am I all in with my relationships?
Am I all in with my dreams and goals?
“Have I put every chip in the pot in terms of my family? faith? community? friends? Am I all in?”
My take is that in some areas of life one is “all in” and not so much in other areas. This brings a whole slew of other questions.
What do you want to do about the things where you’re not “all in”?
Can you get to that level of committment, or do you want to drop it?
What about the next job, committee, volunteer opportunity, relationship, that comes your way?
Will you be “all in”? If not, do you really want to be in at all?
Randy Pausch a professor at Carnegie Mellon University diagnosed with liver cancer with a prognosis of only months to live, gave his final lecture on September 18th, 2007. “Living Your Childhood Dreams” on September 18th of this year. He allowed it to be streamed, it has since been watched over 1 million times.
The video streams from Google and It is almost 2 hours in length. If you don’t want to watch it all at one time, you can use the You Tube version further down as it is broken up into segments.
I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That’s it. No big deal. Just three stories.
“You can’t build a reputation on what you’re going to do.” Henry Ford
A frequent comment I often hear from is that people feel they are performing below their potential in their business or career. I used to think they were being perfectionists, after all we are always our own harshest critic.
As I dig a little deeper, it seems to be something else. They know what they want to do, the action to take that would advance them in the direction they want to go. For some reason they do not take that action, they are seemingly resistant to taking it.
It is these actions, that can make the difference between being average or extraordinary at what we do. (more…)
Many people I speak with feel like they are stuck or in some kind of career rut. They may be in the wrong career, the wrong job, or just not have the opportunity to contribute the best parts of themselves.
You know that feeling we get when you are really connected to what you are doing, it is an experience like very few others. It is a hard feeling to describe, yes it feels good, almost like an energy surge inside of one’s self. Not only are you enjoying what it is you are doing, it also feels right; not in the sense of right or wrong, but right for “me”. (more…)